We've all felt it: the idea that something about us or something we're into is subject to unnecessary, invasive, or hurtful scrutiny or skepticism from others. Sometimes it's something small ("You...
We've all felt it: the idea that something about us or something we're into is subject to unnecessary, invasive, or hurtful scrutiny or skepticism from others. Sometimes it's something small ("You like licorice? Really?!"), and sometimes it's something big ("You don't want to have kids? Really?!"), and each of us likely has faced both within our lives. I'm interested to know what other people's experiences are with this.
- What do you feel unfairly judged for?
- What, in particular, makes it so unfair?
- How do you handle it when you encounter it?
- Do you find yourself changing your behavior or pressured into dishonesty in order to avoid encountering the judgment in the first place?
- Why do you feel this sentiment exists in others and is widespread/shared?
Also, it probably goes without saying, but on a post centered primarily on people's feelings and experiences, potentially very difficult ones, it's probably best to do more listening, empathizing, and asking than explaining or rationalizing.