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    1. What are your experiences with used electric cars?

      I am going to be in the market for a vehicle soon enough. My 2003 car is starting to show its age. Unfortunately my family still requires two cars often enough that I will need to find a...

      I am going to be in the market for a vehicle soon enough. My 2003 car is starting to show its age. Unfortunately my family still requires two cars often enough that I will need to find a replacement.

      I have been bouncing the idea around in my head of getting an electric car.

      As it stands, my 2003 has not gone over 50 miles in a single day more than a handful of times since we got a hybrid three years ago, and I don't see that changing soon. To me, this seems like an excellent opportunity to get a used electric vehicle that might not be getting the range that it once had. A vehicle that got 150 miles on a charge off the lot that now only gets 75 miles might be a problem for the original buyer but might not be for me.

      My question to the users of Tildes - have you bought an "old" (I use this term very loosely) electric car for a similar use case? Are there problems with used electrics that don't have an ICE equivalent? Are you generally happy with the decision?

      55 votes
    2. Jujutsu Kaisen - Season 2 | Discussion thread - all episodes

      Alternative title(s) Sorcery Fight, JJK Genres Action, Drama, Supernatural No. Episodes 23 Information MyAnimeList AniList AniDB Synopsis The second season of Jujutsu Kaisen. The past comes to...

      Alternative title(s) Sorcery Fight, JJK
      Genres Action, Drama, Supernatural
      No. Episodes 23
      Information MyAnimeList AniList AniDB

      Synopsis

      The second season of Jujutsu Kaisen.

      The past comes to light when second-year students Satoru Gojou and Suguru Getou are tasked with escorting young Riko Amanai to Master Tengen. But when a non-sorcerer user tries to kill them, their mission to protect the Star Plasma Vessel threatens to turn them into bitter enemies and cement their destinies—one as the world’s strongest sorcerer, and the other its most twisted curse user!

      (from AniList)

      Discussion rules

      BEWARE OF SPOILERS. Since all episode discussions are within a single thread, here are some rules to ensure revisits are safe from spoilers.

      1. How this thread is organized
      • Each top-level comment is a mini-thread for each episode discussion. A new top-level comment will be added whenever another episode is released.
      • All discussions must be posted as replies within the appropriate mini-threads only. No discussions should be posted as top-level comments.
      • Anything without dedicated mini-threads can be posted under "General chat".
      2. How to navigate and avoid spoilers
      • Use the "Collapse replies" button to find the appropriate episode discussions more easily, and make potential spoilers less visible.
      • You can also use the links at the bottom to jump directly to each episode discussion.
      3. When and how to hide spoilers
      • Within each mini-thread, discussions about the current and previous episodes are freely allowed.
      • But, details about subsequent episodes and source materials are spoilers and must be hidden.
      • To hide spoilers, you can follow the "Expandable sections" part of the formatting guide.
      Tips on using "Expandable" format for spoilers

      Currently there's a flaw where if the comment is collapsed (by using "Collapse replies" or other ways), the hidden parts can still be seen in the small blurbs.

      The workaround is to further enclose the spoilers in quote block. See here for an example comment.

      Direct links to each mini-thread

      Episode discussion (main)

      | Ep1 | Ep2 | Ep3 | Ep4 | Ep5 )

      General discussion (extra)
      | General chat || Season 1, Source material,


      P/S: See here for more ongoing show discussion threads this season.

      23 votes
    3. Aspiration vs Amalgamated Bank (ethical banking)

      Does anyone here have any experience with Aspiration or Amalgamated bank? I am interested in opening a new credit account and can't seem to decide which one to pick. I've picked these two because...

      Does anyone here have any experience with Aspiration or Amalgamated bank? I am interested in opening a new credit account and can't seem to decide which one to pick.

      I've picked these two because of their environmental commitments, but I'm leaning towards Amalgamated since it's based in the East Coast.

      Edit: Unfortunately, Beneficial is only in the West

      6 votes
    4. AlbumLove recommendations thread: August 2023

      Choose one album that you love that you think deserves more love Tell us what it is, and why. Previous posts in series Additional Details Why AlbumLove? In this day and age, algorithmic...

      Choose one album
      that you love
      that you think deserves more love

      Tell us what it is, and why.


      Previous posts in series


      Additional Details

      Why AlbumLove?

      In this day and age, algorithmic recommendations for music are easy to come by, and it's trivial to seek out new music that interests you by searching online. AlbumLove offers an opportunity to sift through music loved by others, including those who might have divergent tastes from you. Think of this as an opportunity to listen outside of your comfort zone, with music that you know someone else adores, from a small pool of thoughtful hand-selected options.

      What do I post?

      Any album that you love and that you feel deserves more appreciation. There are no restrictions on genre, year, or anything else, and nothing is “too popular” or “too niche”. If you think it needs more love — for whatever reason — then it’s welcome in AlbumLove.

      Name the artist and the album, and then, most importantly, share what you love about the album. It could be the music itself, but it could also be your associations with it -- maybe the album reminds you of someone you love, or you saw the band live and got a new appreciation for the studio songs.

      Also, commenting on others' recommendations is encouraged! If you love something that someone else shared, let them know!

      Do I have to listen to what everyone else posts?

      Nope. You don't have to listen to anything if you don't want to. This is about creating a menu of options that people can explore as they wish.

      Can I post more than one album in a month?

      Nope. Limit one! This helps us be more selective about what we choose, as well as preventing the threads from getting flooded with too many contributions to keep track of.

      Why albums and not songs/artists?

      I like albums. :)

      Seriously though, I feel like it's a very different thing to like an album as a whole versus a few songs or just an artist's general vibe. I like the idea of quantizing music for appreciation in the same way we might do with books or movies.

      What about EPs?

      Fair game!

      15 votes
    5. How do people get started in something completely new for them?

      I know that a lot of people can only get into gaming as adults, and I have no idea how they do it. I grew up playing all sorts of games, so I'll try/enjoy anything from Harvest Moon to Baldur's...

      I know that a lot of people can only get into gaming as adults, and I have no idea how they do it. I grew up playing all sorts of games, so I'll try/enjoy anything from Harvest Moon to Baldur's Gate 3. But something that's been frustrating for a while is whenever I can't "get" something. An individual game is tolerable; I couldn't get into Stardew Valley the way I could Rune Factory, but oh well.

      But shooters and (grand) strategy games feel incomprehensible to me. I enjoy Deep Rock despite being not any good at it, but it's my sole exception and probably because of the focus on PvE. Anything focused on PvP in general feels really unapproachable since I'll probably spend forever staring at a respawn or loss screen (I was just lucky growing up with SSB). I enjoy throwing myself at Dark Souls bosses way too early until I've finally gotten good, but in a team-based game I'd hate to force others into dealing with that. Strategy games are also kind of mind-boggling, but I also have trouble getting in the "conqueror" mindset that they seem to all require.

      My friends really like those two kinds of games, so I'd really like to at minimum not zone out whenever they start talking to each other about them. Best case scenario, I could even try some of them myself.

      26 votes
    6. Where is everyone hosting their email these days?

      This is more focused towards those that use custom domains for their email. My current plan is up at Zoho for my team in a month, and even though I've used them for the past few years its been...

      This is more focused towards those that use custom domains for their email. My current plan is up at Zoho for my team in a month, and even though I've used them for the past few years its been hit-or-miss (especially when using third-party apps or programs).

      Who do you use? Who do you not trust? Who would you never go back to?

      Sidenote: I hope this might eventually kick off a ~privacy group, one day.

      72 votes
    7. What are some ideas for what can or should be done to facilitate kids’ independence and social life?

      I'm GenX. I've participated in numerous conversations about how we used to spend large amounts of time outside either alone or with groups of friends, using bikes, skates, skateboards and other...

      I'm GenX. I've participated in numerous conversations about how we used to spend large amounts of time outside either alone or with groups of friends, using bikes, skates, skateboards and other ways to goof off and have a good time, but that doesn't happen as much in the US today.

      @hobofarmer talked about the trouble his kids have finding friends to spend time with.

      The Japanese tv series Old Enough highlights a real cultural difference. https://www.netflix.com/title/81506279

      This news article is about parents using air tags to keep track of their kids. If the kids are airtagged, do they then get more freedom to roam? https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2023/07/26/tracking-kids-airtags/
      archive https://archive.li/Zg353

      45 votes
    8. Fresh Album Fridays: Carly Rae Jepson, George Clanton, Travis Scott, Aphex Twin and more

      Good morning ~ This is a thread to discuss new album releases arriving at our doorsteps today (and until next week). Feel free to share albums and EPs that have caught your eye and interest! A big...

      Good morning ~ This is a thread to discuss new album releases arriving at our doorsteps today (and until next week). Feel free to share albums and EPs that have caught your eye and interest!

      A big week this week!

      Discussion Points

      What are you looking forward to listen to?
      Have you listened to any of these releases?
      What are your thoughts?
      What have you enjoyed from these artists in the past?

      Why Friday?

      Most (but not all) new LPs release on a Friday, as labels want to give the release a full week of sales before entering the charts.

      ~~ Feedback on the format welcome!

      18 votes
    9. MLB trade deadline discussion thread

      I know one of the things I'm going to miss the most at /r/baseball is the trade deadline discussions/trackers, so I figured I'd start one here. I probably won't be able to keep this up-to-date all...

      I know one of the things I'm going to miss the most at /r/baseball is the trade deadline discussions/trackers, so I figured I'd start one here. I probably won't be able to keep this up-to-date all the time, especially on deadline day, but I'll do my best. Please throw new rumors, discussion articles or transactions I've missed into the comments and I'll update the main post as I can.

      Trades from June 23 - July 25.

      Transactions

      June 23

      Angels Receive Mets Receive
      3B Eduardo Escobar RHP Landon Marceaux
      RHP Coleman Crow

      June 25

      Angels Receive Rockies Receive
      3B Mike Moustakas RHP Connor Van Scoyoc

      June 30

      Rangers Receive Royals Receive
      LHP Aroldis Chapman LHP Cole Ragans
      OF Roni Cabrera

      July 3

      Mariners Receive Mets Receive
      LHP Zach Muckenhirn RHP Trevor Gott
      RHP Chris Flexen

      July 20

      Orioles Receive Athletics Receive
      RHP Shintaro Fujinami LHP Easton Lucas

      July 21

      Blue Jays Receive Cardinals Receive
      LHP Genésis Cabrera C Sammy Hernandez

      July 24

      Braves Receive Rockies Receive
      RHP Pierce Johnson RHP Victor Vodnik
      RHP Tanner Gordon
      Braves Receive Rangers Receive
      LHP Taylor Hearn Cash

      July 24

      Marlins Receive Padres Receive
      LHP Jose Castillo Cash

      July 25

      Dodgers Receive Red Sox Receive
      INF Kiké Hernandez RHP Nick Robertson
      RHP Justin Hagenman
      Trades from July 26 - July 30.

      July 26

      Marlins Receive Twins Receive
      RHP Jorge López RHP Dylan Floro
      Dodgers Receive Guardians Receive
      SS Amed Rosario RHP Noah Syndergaard
      Cash
      Red Sox Receive Giants Receive
      RHP Mauricio Llovera RHP Marques Johnson
      Angels Receive White Sox Receive
      RHP Lucas Giolito C Edgar Quero
      RHP Reynaldo Lopez LHP Ky Bush

      July 27

      Brewers Receive Pirates Receive
      1B Carlos Santana SS Johnny Severino

      July 28

      Marlins Receive Mets Receive
      RHP David Robertson INF Marco Vargas
      C Ronald Hernandez
      Dodgers Receive White Sox Receive
      RHP Lance Lynn RHP Nick Nastrini
      RHP Joe Kelly RHP Jordan Leasure
      CF Trayce Thompson
      Astros Receive White Sox Receive
      RHP Kendall Graveman C Korey Lee

      July 29

      Rangers Receive Mets Receive
      RHP Max Scherzer SS Luisangel Acuna

      July 30

      Blue Jays Receive Cardinals Receive
      RHP Jordan Hicks RHP Sem Robberse
      RHP Adam Kloffenstein
      Rangers Receive Cardinals Receive
      LHP Jordan Montgomery LHP John King
      RHP Chris Stratton INF Thomas Saggese
      RHP Tekoah Roby

      July 31

      Angels Receive Rockies Receive
      1B C.J. Cron RHP Jake Madden
      OF Randal Grichuk LHP Mason Albright
      Braves Receive Royals Receive
      3B Nicky Lopez LHP Taylor Hearn
      Rays Receive Guardians Receive
      RHP Aaron Civale 1B Kyle Manzardo
      Diamondbacks Receive Mariners Receive
      RHP Paul Sewald RF Dominc Canzone
      3B Josh Rojas
      SS Ryan Bliss
      Cubs Receive Nationals Receive
      3B Jeimer Candelario LHP DJ Herz
      SS Kevin Made
      Brewers Receive Mets Receive
      LF Mark Canha RHP Justin Jarvis
      Giants Receive Mariners Receive
      LF AJ Pollock PTBNL
      2B Mark Mathias
      Reds Receive Athletics Receive
      LHP Sam Moll RHP Joe Boyle
      Cubs Receive Royals Receive
      RHP José Cuas OF Nelson Velázquez
      Diamondbacks Receive Athletics Receive
      3B Jace Peterson RHP Chad Patrick

      August 1

      Cubs Receive Rays Receive
      RHP Josh Roberson RHP Adrian Sampson
      RHP Manuel Rodriguez
      Royals Receive Angels Receive
      LHP Tucker Davidson Cash
      Rockies Receive Dodgers Receive
      LHP Justin Bruihl Cash
      Blue Jays Receive Cardinals Receive
      SS Paul DeJong RHP Matt Svanson
      Padres Receive Pirates Receive
      1B Ji-Man Choi LHP Jackson Wolf
      LHP Rich Hill OF Estuar Suero
      1B Alfonso Rivas
      Braves Receive Rockies Receive
      LHP Brad Hand RHP Alec Barger
      Astros Receive Mets Receive
      RHP Justin Verlander OF Drew Gilbert
      OF Ryan Clifford
      Phillies Receive Tigers Receive
      RHP Michael Lorenzen INF Hao-Yu Lee
      Orioles Receive Mariners Receive
      RHP Logan Rinehart RHP Eduard Bazardo
      Brewers Receive Diamondbacks Receive
      LHP Andrew Chafin RHP Peter Strzelecki
      Marlins Receive Cubs Receive
      INF Jake Burger LHP Jake Eder
      Angels Receive Mets Receive
      RHP Dominc Leone SS Jeremiah Jackson
      Red Sox Receive Brewers Receive
      3B Luis Urias RHP Bradley Blalock
      Marlins Receive Guardians Receive
      1B Josh Bell SS Jean Segura
      SS Khalil Watson
      Yankees Receive Rangers Receive
      RHP SPencer Howard Cash
      Dodgers Receive Royals Receive
      LHP Ryan Yarbrough 2B Devin Mann
      UT Derlin Figueroa
      Padres Receive Royals Receive
      RHP Scott Barlow RHP Henry Williams
      RHP Jesus Rios
      Padres Receive Marlins Receive
      1B Garrett Cooper LHP Ryan Weathers
      UT Sean Reynolds
      Phillies Receive Pirates Receive
      SS Rodolfo Castro LHP Bailey Falter
      Yankees Receive White Sox Receive
      RHP Kenyan Middleton RHP Juan Carela
      Mets Receive Dodgers Receive
      RHP Phil Bickford Cash
      LHP Adam Kolarek
      Orioles Receive Cardinals Receive
      RHP Jack Flaherty 2B Cesar Prieto
      LHP Drew Rom
      RHP Zack Showalter
      Rangers Receive Mets Receive
      C Austin Hedges Cap Space
      White Sox Receive Rays Receive
      RHP Luis Patiño Cash
      Tigers Receive Dodgers Receive
      SS Eddys Leonard Cash
      Rangers Receive Brewers Receive
      C Alex Jackson RHP Evan McKendry

      Rumors and Discussions

      Rumors from July 20 - July 25

      July 20

      Team Rumor
      Angels Angels to decide within 24-48 hrs of deadline whether to trade Ohtani
      Team Rumor
      Cardinals Dylan Carlson in line for trade after O'Neill's return

      July 21

      Team Rumor
      Mets José Quintana drawing trade interest

      July 24

      Team Rumor
      Reds Reds willing to trade India
      Team Rumor
      Pirates Pirates willing to listen to offers on Bednar, Keller
      Team Rumor
      Braves Braves interested in Boston's Duvall
      Team Rumor
      Diamondbacks, Orioles Arizona and Baltimore interested in Angel's Ohtani

      July 25

      Team Rumor
      Athletics Sam Moll drawing interest
      Rumors from July 26 - July 30 ## July 26 |Team |Rumor| |:------------|---------------:| | Angels| [Angels will not trade Ohtani](https://www.thescore.com/mlb/news/2682452)|

      July 27

      Team Rumor
      Cardinals, Dodgers Cardinals discussing Arenado with Dodgers; Arenado willing to waive no-trade clause
      Team Rumor
      Orioles, Tigers Orioles interested in Michael Lorenzen

      July 28

      Team Rumor
      Mariners Mariners open to dealing from rotation, Paul Sewald
      Team Rumor
      Marlins, Tigers Marlins interested in Michael Lorenzen

      July 29

      Team Rumor
      Marlins, Brewers, White Sox Marlins and Brewers interested in Eloy Jimenez

      July 30

      Team Rumor
      Nationals Nationals have 8 suitors for Candelario
      Team Rumor
      Cubs Cubs take Bellinger off the market

      July 31

      Team Rumor
      Guardians Guardians consider making Aaron Civale available
      Team Rumor
      Astros, Mets Mets, Astros continue to discuss Verlander
      21 votes
    10. Genres you dislike due to the time period you originally listened to them

      I grew up an angsty rural white kid in the 2000s, and as such listened to my fair share of post-grunge/nu-metal/emo bands. Stuff like Seether, Staind, Korn, MCR, Nine inch Nails, Disturbed or...

      I grew up an angsty rural white kid in the 2000s, and as such listened to my fair share of post-grunge/nu-metal/emo bands. Stuff like Seether, Staind, Korn, MCR, Nine inch Nails, Disturbed or Breaking Benjamin Sometime around 14 my musical taste shifted away from that and towards alt/indie/folk (not so coincidentally around the same time I got my first girlfriend and a solid group of friends). From there I've expanded to listening to pretty much every major genre, but the one subsection of music I've never been able to get back into is the aforementioned stuff. Whenever I listen to it I feel like it takes me back to my early tween/teen years and just puts me in a very bad mood. I know I used to really enjoy all of that but I feel like the period of time when I listened to it has been like permanently fused with the music itself and I can't enjoy it any more because of that.

      Which is also weird because I had a very bad few years circa 2015-2019 and I was listening to the mopiest sad boy albums and post rock stuff but I've been able to come back around and enjoy them again without feeling like they're tainted by when I predominantly found and liked them, which was objectively a "worse" period of my life.

      15 votes
    11. TV Tuesdays Free Talk

      Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here. Please just try to provide fair warning of...

      Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.

      Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.

      15 votes
    12. What is everyone using for managing their contacts?

      Hi everyone, I'm struggling with contact management and was wondering if anyone could recommend some good solutions. My Google Contacts and iOS contact management has become unmanageable and I...

      Hi everyone, I'm struggling with contact management and was wondering if anyone could recommend some good solutions. My Google Contacts and iOS contact management has become unmanageable and I personally find them very awkward to use.

      15 votes
    13. A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone

      Historically, I've found the most interesting AMA's came from seemingly "ordinary" people. (touchmyfuckingcoffee's vacuum AMA's come to mind!) I think that most everyone has one or two life...

      Historically, I've found the most interesting AMA's came from seemingly "ordinary" people. (touchmyfuckingcoffee's vacuum AMA's come to mind!) I think that most everyone has one or two life experiences, points of view, or specialized knowledge that would be fun to share or fun to learn about.

      I've toyed with the idea of hosting an AMA for awhile, but I've been afraid that maybe I wasn't "interesting" enough. Then, I realized that others might be in the same position! So instead of hosting my own AMA, I wanted to make space for a collective "Low-Risk" AMA, that I think would work especially well with Tildes' philosophy and format.

      With that preamble, I'm wondering if you would like to join me in an experiment? Let's make mini-AMA's out of top-level comments, with the Q's and A's as child comments.

      Edit: Wow! I wasn't expecting this thread to have so much staying power! Love all the conversations that are being had. FYI The early posters including myself are still answering questions, so don't be shy!

      191 votes
    14. I'm generally confused about dating women

      Tale as old as time, I suppose. Straight man doesn't understand women. I'm hoping this site will provide a healthy place to discuss my feelings and get wholesome input from others without it...

      Tale as old as time, I suppose. Straight man doesn't understand women. I'm hoping this site will provide a healthy place to discuss my feelings and get wholesome input from others without it turning into a pity party or cesspool.

      I didn't have any interest in dating until after I'd graduated college. Unfortunately, I immediately moved to an area of the country notorious for its unfavorable gender ratio. There are many more men than women here which means I'm starting on hard mode. I do at least have some traits which make things easier than for most. I am high earning, reasonably fit (not super cut but I work out most days), tall and I believe mentally healthy. However I can tell that my approach doesn't really catch with most people.

      I've had limited success out here. Some of my failures are mine to own. Getting started from nothing means I'm venturing into the unknown. I'm a naturally anxious person and never felt any intuition in social situations. Thankfully I've managed to figure out a way of being that jives with some people and learned the hard way the things I do that don't jive so well. But dating seems to have its own social rules - and they're harder to learn due to all of the misinformation.

      To sort out a lot of the misinformation I look to the people I see with the greatest degree of success. The older couples that are clearly deeply happy. My parents do pretty well in that regard. They've been married for 30-ish years with nothing more than a short argument between them. Or maybe I'll talk with an older co-worker who loves his wife the same way he did decades ago. People say that all happy families are the same, and unhappy families each broken in their own way. It's clear that there are some things in common with the happy couples - a universal recipe for happiness and success.

      • Forgiveness
      • Consistent effort
      • Flexibility
      • Similar values

      I try to take these virtues with me when dating.

      Of course, mutual attraction is a black box and also plays an important role. I've tried dating women that are just outside of what I would consider attractive. I think it's important to know what truly is important to me. But I found that things did not feel right and I can't compromise in that way. I'm not looking for a 10. But if I know they are not attractive to me it won't work.

      In the normal world (outside of online dating) I think the odds of a random person being instantly notably attractive are very low. Someone needs to be sufficiently aesthetically attractive, but also have the right mind and soul. Without the latter two I have no interest. So for me when I've met a nice woman from a dating app the process of learning more about this person begins - and it can take a while to truly get to know someone. But I draw on the virtue of effort and am more than willing to make that an active process as we get closer.

      There are actually some people out there that this all seems to align with. I think it's mostly a matter of time before I find the right person - so I'm not entirely discouraged. But the vast majority of women I meet seem to have the same feedback. They don't feel a connection - maybe that translates to "they're not attracted enough to me", maybe it's something else. But what I call a "connection" is something that can't be absolutely determined after one date.

      Given my profile pictures are representative of my appearance, I don't think they're all saying I'm aesthetically unattractive to them. Sure, some might decide after meeting me that they aren't as attracted in person. I experience that for myself some of the time. But I suspect that much of the time this is more of a mismatched approach. I really want to know either how better to find my kind of person, or what ways I can adapt to be flexible for the women I'm dating.


      Edit: Thank you everyone for your thoughts!

      A lot of people said a lot of things, many of which sounds right to me but only a few I think are applicable as next steps.

      1. My own reflection leads me to believe that being more present and less analytical will make dates more enjoyable and productive for both people.
      2. Keeping a very long term goal in mind cripples the dynamic of early dating. It requires future prediction abilities beyond what a human can do.
      3. I don't know if I can be the "fun guy" all the time but I can definitely increase the amount of fun.

      I wrote up a journal entry about what I wrote here and everyone's responses. I'll bring up my thoughts with my therapist later. Maybe this is weird but I threw the journal entry into ChatGPT. If nothing else it was positive and cheerful, which is helpful. But I was able to drill down on a few different things and got answers that sound reasonable. This is surely a common enough topic that it's got good training data for it.

      I'd also like to say, for whoever reads my comments, that much of what I wrote is more about following a thought as far as it will go more so than putting my internal constitution into writing. I'm here to be as malleable as I need to be.

      70 votes
    15. Anyone else feel/used to feel that they will be alone both platonically and romantically, forever?

      I have cptsd and comorbid-depression, am gay and trans, and i have bad social skills (i cant even maintain eye contact with someone). I feel completely hopeless for the future and i just wanted to...

      I have cptsd and comorbid-depression, am gay and trans, and i have bad social skills (i cant even maintain eye contact with someone). I feel completely hopeless for the future and i just wanted to know if anyone else here related, or if they've recovered. Thanks
      Edit: Thank you all very much for the great responses. Maybe i'll make it :)

      37 votes
    16. Midweek Movie Free Talk

      Have you watched any movies recently you want to discuss? Any films you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here. Please just try to provide fair warning of...

      Have you watched any movies recently you want to discuss? Any films you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.

      Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.

      9 votes
    17. Any people here who are also interested in a "low-tech lifestyle?"

      As an ex-Redditor, I only subscribed to 3 subreddits: /r/dumbphones /r/nosurf /r/simpleliving As someone who is incorporating more of an "offline" vs. "online" life, and downgrading some elements...

      As an ex-Redditor, I only subscribed to 3 subreddits:
      /r/dumbphones
      /r/nosurf
      /r/simpleliving

      As someone who is incorporating more of an "offline" vs. "online" life, and downgrading some elements to live a lifestyle that's more focus on the present and get out of the house more (family, kids, pets, walking, etc.) instead of just reading and absorbing tons of information on my laptop.

      Are there any people here who are interested in this or is there a section on Tildes for this already? (I know Reddit is a much bigger site, just dipping my toes in the water to see if there is something like that on here already.)

      36 votes
    18. Any good places to find old (but good condition) hardbacks?

      So, I’ve recently remodeled my home office and added a big Murphy bed and bookcase wall unit. It is massive, amazing, and not nearly full enough for my literary standards. :) I’ve been hunting for...

      So, I’ve recently remodeled my home office and added a big Murphy bed and bookcase wall unit. It is massive, amazing, and not nearly full enough for my literary standards. :)

      I’ve been hunting for older, good condition, hardbacks from some of my favorite authors. I’m a massive Clive Barker fan (Imajica, Weaveworld, The Great and Secret Show, etc) and have been trying to track down good editions on eBay. I find it’s really hit or miss, and Amazon is really no better. Short of exploring Etsy for stuff (and my local thrift stores, which have not been remotely useful) are there any good places on the internet I should check out?

      There was a time when googling for this worked, now it’s rather useless.

      Thanks, all!

      15 votes
    19. Which audio drama podcasts do you recommend?

      You might be able to tell by my username which is my favorite audio drama. If you haven't heard of it, Wolf 359 is a space opera dramedy focused on a cast of deeply likable characters who find...

      You might be able to tell by my username which is my favorite audio drama. If you haven't heard of it, Wolf 359 is a space opera dramedy focused on a cast of deeply likable characters who find themselves carrying out mysterious research onboard a space station owned by a soulless corporation. Heads up, the whole thing is very enjoyable but the creators say the real story doesn't get going for real until about episode 9 and I would agree. It's funny and entertaining but gets pretty serious around there. Don't worry, the early episodes are super short and still good.

      Other audio dramas I highly recommend are:

      Bronzetown
      1865
      Limetown
      Edict Zero FIS
      Station 151
      Archive 81
      The Magnus Archives
      Theater of Tomorrow
      The Hyacinth Disaster
      Life After / The Message

      37 votes
    20. How do you hang stuff—from the walls or ceilings—around your house when you're decorating?

      It took me a while to find a good, non-destructive way to put up posters in my living room. I think I started with blu-tack, which dried in a few months and the posters came down. Then I tried...

      It took me a while to find a good, non-destructive way to put up posters in my living room. I think I started with blu-tack, which dried in a few months and the posters came down. Then I tried 3M's hanging strips, which stayed on the wall for longer, but was pretty expensive for what it was. A year ago I had the idea of using velcro that has adhesive tape on the other side. So far this has worked near perfectly for me.

      I know I'm not breaking new ground here, but I was happy to finally find a decent solution. Well, at least for light objects on walls (and elsewhere).

      23 votes
    21. Do you have an anime that serves as your guilty pleasure?

      Do you have a show that you secretly enjoy, but wouldn't speak about it openly? Perhaps it's terrible and ridiculous, but you love it anyway. I have a buddy who has loved SAO since its first...

      Do you have a show that you secretly enjoy, but wouldn't speak about it openly? Perhaps it's terrible and ridiculous, but you love it anyway.

      I have a buddy who has loved SAO since its first season. He knows it kinda sucks, but it makes him happy and imo that's great.

      It would be Detective Conan for me. The quality these days is horrible, but I get a kick from watching them anyway- even though you can predict the culprit 00000.1 seconds into the episode.

      And I know this is ~anime, but I'd also like to see ones that aren't limited to anime. Let us know!

      47 votes
    22. Night-shifters of Tildes, what tips do you have?

      In a few weeks I'm starting a new position at work that will be 7p-7a, 2 days in a row (each week, so work for 2 days, off for 5). It'll be a sort of "on call" type position that will have busier...

      In a few weeks I'm starting a new position at work that will be 7p-7a, 2 days in a row (each week, so work for 2 days, off for 5). It'll be a sort of "on call" type position that will have busier spats at the beginning and end of the shift, but the middle tends to be slow, occasionally no work at all. My employer doesn't have any major restrictions as far as work downtime, I have a lot of freedom there.

      What tips do y'all have for managing sleep surrounding overnight shifts, and also maintaining alertness/awakeness during the overnight shifts?

      30 votes
    23. Why did you select your username for Tildes?

      I always try this name first when signing up for accounts but it is always taken. Listen closely, my friend, because I'm about to blow your mind wide open. You see, 'King of the Hill' isn't just...

      I always try this name first when signing up for accounts but it is always taken.

      Listen closely, my friend, because I'm about to blow your mind wide open. You see, 'King of the Hill' isn't just some ordinary animated series. It's a diabolical government project aimed at documenting every aspect of my life! They've been watching me, tracking my every move, and mocking me through the fictional character of Hank Hill. It's all a clever ruse to hide the truth from the masses!

      In every episode, they carefully weave in details from my life, the people I know, and the secrets I've uncovered. The creators are agents of the government, skillfully disguising their surveillance operation as a simple sitcom. They want the world to think it's just entertainment, but it's so much more!

      Think about it! The show portrays Hank as a patriotic, average American, while I, Dale-ahem uh, Rusty Shackleford, the one who truly understands what's going on, am portrayed as a paranoid conspiracy theorist. It's a calculated move to discredit me, to make the truth sound like fiction!

      Every time I see the show, I feel their eyes upon me, laughing at my expense. The characters, the scenarios, they're all just tools to manipulate public perception. It's a mind-control experiment! MAKE SURE YOUR MOUNTAIN DEW IS SAFE.

      But don't worry, my friend. I won't let them silence me. I'll continue to expose the truth, fighting against this government conspiracy, no matter how deep it goes. They can't hide forever!

      Sha-sha-shaaaaa! pocket sand

      103 votes
    24. Suggestions for a short trip to Denver?

      I have a business trip to Denver in a few weeks, but I'm planning on staying a couple extra nights in order to see the city. My SO is also coming along. Neither of us have been to Denver -- any...

      I have a business trip to Denver in a few weeks, but I'm planning on staying a couple extra nights in order to see the city. My SO is also coming along. Neither of us have been to Denver -- any favorite things to do/see/eat?

      • We both enjoy art museums.
      • I've heard good things about Wings Over The Rockies, but I'm not sure how it compares to other aviation museums across the country.
      • Food: We are both kind of foodies, but it doesn't have to be fancy. Any cuisines to look for, or unique places to go?
      • Natural things: We might visit Rocky Mountain National Park or something like that. We have a rental car and don't mind driving if the destination is worth it.
      23 votes
    25. Do you use a puzzle mat for jigsaw puzzles? Is it necessary?

      I've been doing some high-ish quality wooden jigsaw puzzles, and I'm a bit worried about them getting damaged, so I'm using a puzzle mat. And...I hate it, so much. It's crazy hard to move...

      I've been doing some high-ish quality wooden jigsaw puzzles, and I'm a bit worried about them getting damaged, so I'm using a puzzle mat. And...I hate it, so much. It's crazy hard to move completed sections around if you need to rearrange, which is often an issue since i always solve without looking at the image. This is the primary irritation, but it's significant, and there's also some secondary irritations like the board is just kinda annoying to deal with and it's itchy lol.

      So, to people who do jigsaw puzzles, how do you protect your pieces? Do you use a puzzle mat? Something else? Just do it on a hard surface and all is fine?

      (also meta-note: this is my first topic post here so I hope I've done this correctly, tell me if I haven't!)

      15 votes
    26. Tildes multiplayer games

      I think the population of the site has likely grown to the point where we could get some multiplayer gaming going. While I don't currently have anything in mind, I figure there will come a time...

      I think the population of the site has likely grown to the point where we could get some multiplayer gaming going. While I don't currently have anything in mind, I figure there will come a time when I do so I thought I'd try to get things rolling.

      So, what multiplayer games would you like to try but lack the people for? What is your general availability for playing? Is there anything else people need to be aware of? Interest permitting, a recurring thread may be appropriate, though the exact interval would depend on the level of interest.

      64 votes
    27. When did VPS hosting get so expensive?

      I recently looked around at VPS pricing on DigitialOcean, Linode and Vultr. Everything seems much higher than I'd expect - way over the inflation rate. It looks like a 2 core 8GB VPS is being...

      I recently looked around at VPS pricing on DigitialOcean, Linode and Vultr. Everything seems much higher than I'd expect - way over the inflation rate. It looks like a 2 core 8GB VPS is being priced between $45 and $60 per month. Maybe I don't remember correctly but I recall being able to get 2 core VMs around $20 a few years ago!

      31 votes
    28. What are your thoughts on the European Union centralizing into something more akin to an early United States

      As a preface, this comes from the perspective of an American looking in on Europe. I'm curious in particular what any Europeans (please include your country of origin/ethnicity if you feel so...

      As a preface, this comes from the perspective of an American looking in on Europe. I'm curious in particular what any Europeans (please include your country of origin/ethnicity if you feel so inclined) feel about this post and the future of the EU.

      Europe is a unique region, to put it lightly. The extremely high level of development relative to the rest of the world over this last millennium as well as so many technological innovations in that period of time led to a Europe ready to exert its influence upon the rest of the world. We can comfortably say that, while examples do still exist, colonialism as an institution has largely faded. Europe is a much more varied continent culturally and ethnically despite a space roughly equal to that of the USA. We've all heard the common sayings about 200 miles is long in Europe where 200 years is long in America and generally speaking that does hold true.
      That said, Europe in the modern era really does feel like many small countries functioning as one big entity with the European Union. The EU has only gained credibility and legitimacy and it is now the institution I expect to hear from on matters within the EU first, even ahead of any individual nation state.
      All of this to say, I think a united Europe is the strongest possible future for Europe. No individual state in Europe is large enough to exert an influence upon the world without the rest of Europe behind them. Globalization, while diminished in recent years, is still happening and I don't see a decentralized Europe as "winning" globalization as dozens of individually tiny states.

      I could continue writing, but I think you understand my position. Now I would like to point to the article I found that really made me think about this, here.

      I would also like to ask, what do you see Europe and the European Union standing for? Should it continue to centralize or is the current level of control enough? Too much? I didn't mention Ukraine or defense in this post but obviously that has a huge impact on all of these questions and I would love to hear if that has impacted your perspective on this admittedly grandiose idea for a united Europe.

      People from all countries welcome to discuss, but please do mention your country if you feel comfortable doing so!

      Edit: More reading for anyone interested.

      53 votes
    29. What are some ways I can make my Illegal Slivers EDH deck more illegal?

      Hey there! I posted this on r/magictcg a while back, but I've seen and received many new ideas for cards and I'd love to see if you have any new ones. I had my Japanese copy of Sliver Queen in my...

      Hey there! I posted this on r/magictcg a while back, but I've seen and received many new ideas for cards and I'd love to see if you have any new ones.

      I had my Japanese copy of Sliver Queen in my wallet for years because my friend found it for $2 in a bargain bin, and I thought I could just buy another - not knowing it was Reserve List. Whoops. So I decided to build an Illegal Slivers EDH deck where every card is somehow not quite legitimate, with a few restrictions - no power 9, no OG duals, and if I can help it try to make as much variety between restrictions as possible, all while trying to keep it as a legitimate deck that aims to use Queen as the wincon. But I'm only about a quarter of the way there. Here's what's up:

      • Cards from other games with the same or similar names are used; Swamp from Wyvern, Island from Dominion, Ancient Tomb from Pokemon, Xiahou Dun the One-eyed from Wixoss, Karoo from One Piece, Duel Masters copy of Muscle Sliver...

      • I'm using relevant illegal MtG prints - World Championship decks, Mystery Booster playtests, an art copy of the Unearth Sliver I keep forgetting the name of, silver borders / acorns, etc. Also Clickslither (from Legions!) instead of Quick Sliver (from Legions!).

      • I was looking for a Wheel of Fortune tarot card before I found that lööps sticker and decided to go with that.

      • My favorite is that someone originally stole the shipment of Crystalline Sliver promos before they were going to give them out... So if you had a copy of it at one point, it was literally-illegal stolen goods. Eventually they retrieved them and distributed them.

      I've got other ideas, and I'm trying to break each rule. Looking for:

      • The best single thing from the ban list

      • Lutri as companion, or one card used twice

      • One ante card

      • Planechase and Conspiracy

      • The card Unquenchable Fury, to be confused with Unquenchable Fury

      • A 30th Anniversary card

      • Some oversize cards as regular-size proxies

      • An AI generated Sliver as a proxy

      • Some configuration of Unfinity Stickers to make a new Sliver card of my own

      • A World's Smallest for something like a Night's Whisper

      • An Armageddon trading card for Armageddon, a Hearthstone from WoW TCG, a Force of Will from L5R TCG, a whole bevy of cards from LotR card game... I still also need Sliv-Mizzet.

      And once this is all done... Find 100 different card sleeves to wrap these in. I'd also love - LOVE - to get the Queen graded and still use it as my Commander.

      So, Tildes - how else can I make this deck even worse? Thanks!

      21 votes
    30. 2022/2023 Formula E - Round 16, London (Season End)

      Anyone watch Formula E? The 2022/2023 season, or Season 9, just ended in London. Round 16, London results Nick Cassidy, Envision Racing Mitch Evans, Jaguar TCS Racing Jake Dennis, Avalanche...

      Anyone watch Formula E? The 2022/2023 season, or Season 9, just ended in London.

      Round 16, London results
      1. Nick Cassidy, Envision Racing
      2. Mitch Evans, Jaguar TCS Racing
      3. Jake Dennis, Avalanche Andretti Formula E

      Full Race Results

      2022/2023 Season 9 Final Standings

      2023 Teams Championship
      1. Envision Racing -- 304 pts
      2. Jaguar TCS Racing -- 292 pts
      3. Avalanche Andretti Formula E -- 252pts
      2023 Drivers Championship
      1. Jake Dennis, Avalanche Andretti Formula E -- 229pts
      2. Nick Cassidy, Envision Racing -- 199pts
      3. Mitch Evans, Jaguar TCS -- 197pts

      Full, Final Standings

      I missed most of the second half of the season, but at least caught the last race!

      I was really hoping rookie Jake Hughes (Neom McLaren Formula E) would do well, but he turned out to be more of a quali driver; could never keep race pace. But he did finished 12th in the standings, ahead of his teammate, Rene Rast. I suppose that could be viewed as a solid first season.

      Overall I've only been watching Formula E since about 2021, but it seemed like this year was less bumper cars than the last two. The poor racecraft definitely turned me off from the series at times.

      Looking forward to Season 10!

      9 votes
    31. A thread for news and discussion about UFO/UAP related topics

      ##NEWS## "A bipartisan group of lawmakers on the House Oversight Committee says a high-profile hearing on UFOs is just the start of their push for answers. And they are threatening to use...

      ##NEWS## "A bipartisan group of lawmakers on the House Oversight Committee says a high-profile hearing on UFOs is just the start of their push for answers. And they are threatening to use heavier-handed tactics if the Pentagon and intelligence agencies stand in their way." (The Hill) ##

      What's this?

      This topic header is updated to link to the newest top-level comment link post so it's visible through the sneakpeek.


      Since many people are upset about the homepage getting swamped with UFO/UAP news, maybe a dedicated thread to contain all the discussion would help.

      Edit: also please keep the conversation civil



      Direct links to each sub-thread:

      What's this?

      Currently the thread is dominated by meta discussions, making it hard to find the actual news. I'm thinking maybe having a short list of top-level comments directly from the thread's main body can help browsing to find relevant discussions more manageable.

      The comments will be categorized into link posts and text posts, emulating the way the site works (though I suspect there'll be mixed cases where judgement call will be needed).

      I'll try to keep the list (as well as the header) updated. Hopefully this will alleviate somewhat the worry that topics in megathreads aren't visible.

      Link posts (newest first)

      Text posts (newest first)

      Off-topics (newest first, posts are placed here only after it's noticeably clear that comment labels have taken effect)

      56 votes
    32. Lets talk roguelikes!

      Roguelikes have a special place in my heart. When you know that your character is mortal, the stakes feel so much more real, and your progress feel so much more earned. You can’t second-guess the...

      Roguelikes have a special place in my heart. When you know that your character is mortal, the stakes feel so much more real, and your progress feel so much more earned. You can’t second-guess the level design, because random, and sometimes things are simply not unfair, like when you get transformed into a cute mushroom, while your otherwise generic foe get transformed into a god. I consider unfairness, uncertaincy and chaos to be core gameplay components.

      Here’s some roguelikes I liked, in no particular order:

      Inscryption
      Sort of like Slay the Spire with retro aestetics combined with the gritty feel of the SAW franchise. The most atmospheric and foreboding deckbuilder I've ever played. It is sort of a meta-game where you play a retro computer game in which you play a tabletop roleplaying game with a deranged dungeonmaster.

      Noita
      Looks like a rather generic pixelart side-view dungeoncrawl, but beneath the humble surface lurks Finnish folklore, a revolutionary physics engine and an insanely versatile magic system, likely the best in any game. The game is vast, both in sense of game world but also the numbers of monsters, spells, perks and secrets. I consider this the best roguelike, full stop.

      Don't Starve
      Craft to survive in an unforgiving wilderness, battling wildlife, hunger cold and insanity. Having to constantly collect resources makes this game a bit on the grindy side, but the hand-drawn artwork and a rich world to explore and unlock makes this stay fresh.

      Jupiter Hell
      This, the successor to DRL (Doom Roguelike), is the only classic roguelike I could ever get into. The top-notch visuals makes me literally forget that I'm playing a grid-based turn-based rogue-clone. Still, the game is rather lacking in variation, and there's no lore or story choices. While I think this is by design, the DOOM roots and whatnot, I'm missing the sense of exploration and wonder found in other roguelikes. But even with that, the game is cool and ever so dark, and there's quite a lot of depth despite the simple controls.

      FTL
      Simplistic and neat pixelart space exploration game. The meat of the game is space combat in real time with pause, between which you plan your route on a node-based overworld and make various choices. The game, while cozy, is quite intense. You're trying to escape a vastly superior fleet while fighting off incoming attacks and trying to not run out of fuel while hopefully improving your ship to survive as the stakes rises. Every choice you make feels like a life or death decision. The fights offers a lot of different tactics. There's various ships to unlock by completing various missions. The one downside is that you have seen all the different encounters way before you have everything unlocked, but the mod FTL Multiverse adds a lot of new content.

      Into the Breach
      Simple tactical turnbased on 8x8 fields, by the folks behind FTL. The main gimmick is that you can see how the enemies are going to attack in their turn, and try to counter it. This works surprisingly well and offers a lot of depth.

      Depth of Extinction
      Underwater turnbased tactical. The game feels like watching a cheap action movie from the eighties. Sometimes the missions can feel a bit samey, and the underwater setting could be more in forefront but this doesn't stop the game from being quite a lot of fun. I'm hardly an expert here, but I've heard people who prides themselves of their expertice at turn-based tactical gaming giving this one a lot of praise.

      Retromancer
      Arena-shooter with a very stylish retro aestetics which doesn't confuse you in the fast-paced chaos. This, combined with a RPG fantasy theme really make this stand out from the other twin-stick offerings. This is a game I consider a spiritual successor to the original twin stick shooter, Robotron 2084. Of course, you need to play the Hunter, the other characters doesn't have the Robotron-trademark mashine gun fire. There's a dash function which is quite handy when you're about to be cornered. There is not really any character building, although by scoring enough points you can unlock various pickups. I guess it is designed for local multiplayer (there's four characters to choose from) but I haven't tried this. Plays excellent with controller.

      The Wrath's Den
      This is basically Dungeonkeeper, but simplified into a turnbased pixelart game with keyboard controls. You use space to switch between minions, arrow keys to move them, X to do various actions. Besides the random room choices, everything follow simple strict mechanics, which sometimes requires a bit of observation to grasp. The one major downside is that you cannot save your game. Much suck! But other than that, this humble little game is quite easy to fall in love with.

      90 votes
    33. Where do you all go for gaming news?

      I love keeping up with industry announcements and new trailers, but a lot of game news websites are too full of fluff. Is there a good videogame news aggregator or a journalism site that you like?...

      I love keeping up with industry announcements and new trailers, but a lot of game news websites are too full of fluff. Is there a good videogame news aggregator or a journalism site that you like? I used to like IGN and Kotaku but I find their content more useless than not.

      41 votes
    34. Which show kickstarted your interest in anime?

      It doesn't necessarily have to be your first show. Which one sparked your interest? Do you still like it? Hunter x Hunter (2011) was the one that introduced me to weeb culture. From there, I...

      It doesn't necessarily have to be your first show. Which one sparked your interest? Do you still like it?

      Hunter x Hunter (2011) was the one that introduced me to weeb culture. From there, I branched out- the earliest I remember are Fairy Tail, Blue Exorcist, Magi, etc. Weirdly enough, I still haven't finished Naruto.

      I recently rewatched HxH, and I can still say it's very charming. I can now join the Hiatus x Hiatus gang.

      60 votes
    35. Help with educational resources - Non bio parents reveal

      Does anyone know of any good resources for helping kids understand when their dad is not their bio dad? My brother is not his eldests bio dad. Some bullying/ nastiness means my Bro and his Mrs are...

      Does anyone know of any good resources for helping kids understand when their dad is not their bio dad? My brother is not his eldests bio dad. Some bullying/ nastiness means my Bro and his Mrs are sitting the kid down today (on an expedited schedule) to tell him and explain hes not a mistake etc. Are there any good educational bits anyone might know of?

      8 votes
    36. What are your favorite recipes to showcase garden- or farm-fresh produce?

      Now that the summer bounty at the farmer's market is in full swing, I'd love to hear about your recipes that showcase the fresh fruits and vegetables you get from the farmer's market, or the...

      Now that the summer bounty at the farmer's market is in full swing, I'd love to hear about your recipes that showcase the fresh fruits and vegetables you get from the farmer's market, or the garden if you grow your own. I'm thinking of the recipes that really let the flavors of the produce shine.

      Two of my favorite farmer's market items are sweet corn and tomatoes, and I've come to realize the corn and tomatoes you can buy at the grocery store are just sad imitations of the real thing. My favorite recipe right now is a simple sweet corn and cherry tomato salad, with a little basil, flaky salt, lime juice, and good olive oil. I'll add mozarella or feta and pepitas sometimes for a little extra oomph, but the simplicity and flavors are heavenly. What are your favorites?

      16 votes